Came across this article and I find it quite meaningful.
For the ones I love, no matter how awful or what bad points he has, I still love him.
Love isn’t something you can pick and choose when it’s convenient for
you to do so. Love isn’t just the easy parts. Love is every part.
When they’re in a bad mood and a bunch of little things are going
wrong and they’re taking it all out on you, even when you had nothing to
do with anything. Especially when you were only trying to help. It’s
not fair to you to have to walk into that line of fire just because you
live with them or just because you texted them at the wrong moment or
just because you love them. So you will either retreat into your own
corner, or they will go to theirs, and you yourself will fume about
their bad mood, their short temper, their habit of taking things out on
other people who had nothing to do with anything in the first place.
You have to remember to love them through these moments.
You have to remember to love them in spite of these moments.
And eventually, as the relationship grows, you will both learn how to
retreat into each other when things get awful. You will begin to go to
them, and they will go to you – you’ll each run at first, because you’ll
be unsure and unsteady and don’t want to miss out on what you can only
hope is solace, but you’ll also learn in time to walk to them. Because
they will be there waiting, and so you will retreat into them on awful
days before you yourself become awful, and you will learn to be calm and
say, this was my day and it was horrible and this is my problem and it
is horrible, too. And they’ll listen and nod and understand and wait for
you to finish venting before they say, let’s figure this out together.
And you can, and you will. And you will do the same for them when they
retreat into you.
Because that is a relationship, and in the good and bad and wonderful
and awful parts, you have to remember to love them — this sometimes
horrible and sometimes amazing other person who contains so much in
their core that they are able to be themselves and love you
simultaneously. Remember to love them. Remember to never take that for
granted, because finding someone you can love so easily is just as hard
as it is to find someone who will love you in return. Love them when
they’re awful. And help them to remember to love you when you are, too.
This article really hit the nail.